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Sunday 31 August 2014

An alternative to AA's “20 Questions”: You know you're a drunkard when … (contd)


Your bar tabs impact the international price of wheat and barley

Your hangovers can be seen from space

You’ve heckled AA meetings

You know to put extra ice in your cocktail when you take a hot shower

You don’t get “falling down drunk,” you get “gravity-challenged”

 
Cheerio

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

Happy New Year-The Vision Of Tomorrow, January, 1952, Bill W



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Saturday 30 August 2014

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship (contd)



Extract:

How may “outside” A.A. groups help groups and members in institutions?

This subject is fully covered in the pamphlets “A.A. in Correctional Facilities” and “A.A. In Treatment Facilities.” Also see Guidelines on Corrections Committees and Guidelines on Treatment Facilities Committees, Treatment Facilities Workbook and Corrections Workbook, all available from G.S.O.

Service Sponsorship

. . . A.A. service is anything whatever that helps us to reach a fellow sufferer — ranging all the way from the Twelfth Step itself to a ten-cent phone call and a cup of coffee, and to A.A.’s General Service Office for national and international action. The sum total of all these services is our Third Legacy of Service. — The A.A. Service Manual/Twelve Concepts for World Service, page S1.

Sponsorship in A.A. is basically the same, whether helping another individual’s recovery or service to a group. It can be defined as one alcoholic who has made some progress in recovery [ie. you don't have to be “recovered” nor do you HAVE TO HAVE a sponsor] and/or performance in service, sharing this experience with another alcoholic who is just starting the journey. Both types of service spring from the spiritual aspects of the program.

Individuals may feel that they have more to offer in one area than in another. It is the service sponsor’s responsibility to present the various aspects of service: setting up a meeting; working on committees; participating in conferences, etc. In this matter it is important for the service sponsor to help individuals understand the distinction between serving the needs of the Fellowship and meeting the personal needs of another group member.

A service sponsor is usually someone who is knowledgeable in A.A. history and has a strong background in the service structure. The A.A. member is introduced to a new language: G.S.R., D.C.M., area assembly, minority opinion. They will become familiar with the Traditions, Concepts and Warranties, as well as The A.A. Service Manual/Twelve Concepts for World Service, Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age and other A.A. literature.

The service sponsor begins by encouraging the member to become active in their home group — coffee, literature, cleanup, attending business or intergroup meetings, etc. The service sponsor should keep in mind that all members will not have the desire or qualifications to move beyond certain levels and, thus, the service sponsor might help find tasks appropriate to individuals’ skills and interests. Whatever level of service one performs, all are toward the same end — sharing the overall responsibilities of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Eventually, the service sponsor encourages the individual member interested in this form of service to attend district meetings and to read about the history and structure of Alcoholics Anonymous. At this point, the individual beginning this work should begin to understand the responsibilities of service work, as well as feel the satisfaction of yet another form of Twelfth Step work. Such individuals should be encouraged to take an active part in district activities and consider being elected to alternate positions in the district so as to learn about the responsibilities of various jobs in the service structure.

During this process it is important for the individual to continue to learn about the Three Legacies — Recovery, Unity and Service, and to understand that the principle of rotation not only allows them to move on in service, but also gives newer members the privilege [ie. it's NOT a right] of serving. Rotation also allows them to understand that no one should hold on to a position of trust long enough to feel a proprietary interest and thereby discourage newcomers from service.

Co-founder Dr. Bob said, “I spend a great deal of time passing on what I learned to others who want and need it badly. I do it for four reasons:
1. Sense of duty.
2. It is a pleasure.
3. Because in doing so I am paying my debt to the man who took time to pass it on to me.
4. Because every time I do it I take out a little more insurance for myself against a possible slip.”

The basis of all sponsorship is to lead by example [this will exclude cult sponsors by definition. They work on the basis of 'Do as I say, not what I do']. Service sponsors can impart to their sponsees the pleasure of involvement in the work of Alcoholics Anonymous. This is best done by stressing the spiritual nature of service work and by pointing out the usefulness of simple footwork and faith.

Now, through knowledge and experience, the newer member is aware that service is our most important product after sobriety. With this knowledge, the individual is able to share their vision with others and ensure the future of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Summary

Most present members of Alcoholics Anonymous owe their sobriety to the fact that someone else took a special interest in them and was willing to share a great gift with them.

Sponsorship is merely another way of describing the continuing special interest of a seasoned member that can mean so much to a newcomer turning to A.A. for help.

Individuals and groups cannot afford to lose sight of the importance of sponsorship, the importance of taking a special interest in a confused alcoholic who wants to stop drinking. Experience shows clearly that the members getting the most out of the A.A. program, and the groups doing the best job of carrying the A.A. message to still-suffering alcoholics, are those for whom sponsorship is too important to be left to chance.

By these members and groups, sponsorship responsibilities are welcomed and accepted as opportunities to enrich personal A.A. Experience and to deepen the satisfactions that come from working with others.”

(our emphases - our comments in red)

Comment: By and large sensible advice although this section fails to point out the obvious danger. A singular presentation of what service involves means that bad as well as good perspectives might be passed on to the newcomer. Over-reliance on a single individual (such as will be found all too often amongst the cult membership with their sponsor 'fetishist' approach) always entails this risk. As broad a range of experience should always be sought combined with a greater emphasis on the study of AA conference approved literature.

This brings to an end our survey of this piece of AA literature.

But remember: a sponsor is NOT ESSENTIAL to recovery. And NO sponsorship is better by far than BAD sponsorship!

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

(Coming next! aacultwatch's review of “The AA Member – Medications and Other Drugs”)

Friday 29 August 2014

Conference questions (2014) – almost! (contd)


50. Would Conference pass a recommendation that the General Service Board of Alcoholics Anonymous, as guardians of the Twelve Traditions, condemn the actions of Intergroups and Regions, which exclude registered AA groups, and individual AA members from exercising their right of participation in our service structure?

Background

A registered AA group in Bournemouth, South West Region, and its members have for 7 years been excluded from participating in their local Intergroups, despite repeated attempts to join. [Let's make it 8 years, and then 9 and then …..]
This AA group, which is to be found on the National list of AA meetings, has donated thousands of pounds directly to GSO, as local Intergroups have consistently declined its donations. [Anybody can get listed nationally. There are no checks carried out. Go on! Try it out! Make up some daft group name and apply for registration!. And of course the local intergroups are going to decline a cult group's donations. The real question is why is GSO accepting them?]
No credible reason has ever been given for these clearly discriminatory actions. Does any service board ever have a credible reason for excluding any group to which it is directly responsible and which it serves?
(Tradition 9) [Untrue. See: Bournemouth Road to Recovery group]
These actions have created disunity locally and diverted attention away from efforts to carry the AA message. [Untrue. The existing intergroup and groups are positively thriving without the participation of the Bournemouth cult group. And no one can claim that the Bournemouth cult group EVER carried the AA message!]
Many members have been left feeling very insecure in the Fellowship that saved or could have saved their lives. Some may have left AA all together. [Many members leave AA and some die because of the cult groups. See Bournemouth Road to Recovery suicide]
Very willing and competent AA members have been denied the right to serve in the local service structure. [Untrue. Bournemouth members can hardly claim to be competent. Competent implies responsible – a quality completely lacking amongst the cult membership]
This right should never be denied any AA member based on membership of a particular group. [It's not a right – it's a privilege]
Failure by the GSB to express any views on this disgraceful state of affairs, may well have been deemed as approval of their actions by local Intergroups. [Untrue. GSO has made its position quite clear. It's ultra vires as far as they're concerned]
In any organisation where discrimination takes place it is the role of the leadership of that organisation to take a clear stand. [GSO has. See above]
Up till now the GSB has shirked on its responsibility and alcoholics could well have died as a result of this inactivity. [Again untrue. See above. We know for a fact that many alcoholics have already died because of the cult's activities. See Medications and Recovery]
Similar actions go on unchallenged in other parts of AA in the UK. [Excellent. Let's hope this trend spreads with the exclusion of further cult groups from participation in the service structure. See our Cult Where to Finds:



o Tradition 1
o Tradition 3
o Tradition 4
o Concepts 4, 9 and 12.

Terms of Reference No. 7 From the supplied background material this is a local issue”

Comment: We can expect no doubt the Bournemouth Road to Recovery cult group's complaints to appear again next year in 'Questions that didn't quite make it'

See here for a full list of other questions that didn't quite get through the 'filter'

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

Thursday 28 August 2014

Alcohol research


Values Stressed by Two Social Class Levels at Meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous, Murphy MM, Quarterly Journal of Studies on Alcohol, Vol.14 (4), 577-585, 1953

This investigation was designed to analyze the values stressed by speakers at meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) and to ascertain whether values stressed by members of middle class social status background differ from those stressed by lower class members. Previous investigations (2,3,4) have disclose that class values of his early training become integral parts of the individual's personality and are ever-present guides for what he thinks, what he feels and how he acts. Social class differences operate to maintain barriers against intimate social participation among individuals of different social status backgrounds and make it difficult for them to work, live and commune with one another. American educational institutions, which serve all social class levels, are dominated by teachers of middle class background who stress middle class values, attitudes and goals.”



PS For AA Minority Report 2013 click here

Wednesday 27 August 2014

To kneel or not to kneel, that is the question?


Extracts from the aacultwatch forum (old)

Hello ….....,

Thank you for your delightful response. You are clearly an intelligent person. So I will be fearless and thorough in my response :)

I would be interested to know what Higher Power requires you to kneel twice per day? Did this "suggestion" come as a direct communication from your Higher Power, or did it come from a sponsor (a human power)?

Although the Big Book mentions "humbly" and "humility", please can you also tell me where in the Big Book it specifically tells us to kneel twice per day, every day. Or is this yet another sponsor-invented "suggestion"??.

As kneeling is a religious practice connected with worship and adoration, I would be interested in the origin of this "suggested" practice.

Would you also please tell me how kneeling equates with being "humble"? I have encountered a number of kneeling fetishists in AA and they seem to me to be very far from being humble. Both in their attitude and behaviour. For example. a man in Ealing - Happy Dennis - talks incessantly about kneeling and being "humble" and coerces others to do likewise. Yet he produces his own literature contradicting AA, breaks the traditions, misquotes AA literature, and doesn't listen to anyone except the voice of his own deluded self-will, which has been running riot in Ealing for some time now causing a lot of disruption to the local fellowship and confusion among newcomers.

Another self-procaimed "humble" and kneeling fetishist is David C Icons, who has set up a website that lies about and distorts the AA program, knowing that it is causing division and conflict within AA, and offering dangerous and potentially fatal advice on medical and psychological matters which he is certainly not qualified to give. Please can you tell me how this is being "humble".

It seems to me that kneeling as an alleged expression of "humility" lacks both depth and weight, and, given the examples above, is nothing more than fakery and posturing.  As the program, according to the Big Book, is about connecting with and doing the will of a Higher Power, I would really like to know what Higher Power requires this daily charade. It certainly isn't my Higher Power!

I can assure you that I do have a conscious contact with my own Higher Power who requires humility to take place in my heart, in my attitudes and behaviour, and not as a mere pose on the floor, easily feigned.  Would I be able to share that in your Hampton Wick [Friday] meeting without being "cross-shared" or "blanked" by the assembled company of ever so "humble" cult-sponsors ? Somehow I doubt it. As has been said elsewhere in the aacultwatch site, and is my experience, - "the more they kneel, the more arrogant they become". It is a sad, but true irony.

I will deal with your other points later when I have more time. Please bear with me, I will address them.  Look forward to your reply.

.....”


Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

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Tuesday 26 August 2014

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship (contd)



Extract:

For groups planning sponsorship activity

How does sponsorship help a group?

The primary purpose of an A.A. group is to carry the message of the recovery program to alcoholics who want and ask for help. Group meetings are one way of doing this. Sponsorship is another.

In some groups, the idea of sponsorship is broadened to include working with alcoholics in nearby institutions and, through correspondence, with isolated Lone Members, Internationalists (seagoing A.A.s), and Homers.

Active sponsorship programs within a group remind all members of the group’s primary purpose. They serve to unite a group, keep it mindful of “First Things First.

What procedures can a group set up to sponsor new members?

Carefully planned sponsorship activity within a group is often likely to produce better results than sponsorship left to chance. [Evidence?]

A typical pattern of planned sponsorship within a local group might include the following:

A regular committee on sponsorship or a Twelfth Step committee, with members rotating frequently. If there is an intergroup or central office that keeps a list of local groups and the members available for Twelfth Step calls, such a committee may check to see whether the group has enough of its members on the office list to fulfil its responsibility.

Regular beginners meetings (also called newcomers meetings) — particularly in larger communities where there are many newcomers. A Guide for Leading Beginners Meetings may be ordered from G.S.O. [These meetings are frequently exploited by the cult to target and subsequently engage in the systematic abuse of newcomers]

Regular assignment of members to greet newcomers at meetings and introduce them around. In large groups, people on a hospitality committee may wear badges for the benefit of the newcomer. In smaller groups, the secretary may, during the announcements, simply ask newcomers to come up and make themselves known after the meeting, so they may be introduced to other members. [Another extremely daft idea – just what a newcomer wants to do when they come to AA – get up in front of a crowd of strangers and announce themselves – NOT! Get a grip!]

Another suggested announcement. “If any person here does not have a sponsor and wants one, please see the secretary, who will arrange a temporary sponsor.” Where this practice is followed at each meeting, members say, it reminds the group of the value of sponsoring and being sponsored. [This just gets worse and worse! The initiative should remain with the newcomer at all times to decide when and where they (may) wish to ask someone to sponsor them – or not at all!]

Closed-meeting discussions of sponsorship problems and opportunities. Some groups schedule meetings especially for this purpose.

A file of names, addresses, and phone numbers of newcomers (who wish to volunteer the information), with notations showing sponsor or sponsors for each one. [Next thing they'll be suggesting is that we keep even more files on AA members including race, age, gender, sexual orientation, shirt size etc ….. In fact perhaps we should start registering our membership in future – see Traditions on this]

Table display of Conference-approved A.A. Literature on recovery (including this pamphlet).

Review of newcomers list by steering committee (or Twelfth Step or sponsorship committee) — with followup activity where it seems needed. [Wouldn't it just be easier to corral the newcomers to stop them straying off?]

Study of Chapter 7 in the Big Book (“Working With Others”). [Probably the first sensible suggestion so far]

Regular procedure (carried out by the secretary or the sponsorship committee) for welcoming newcomers who have just left institutions, treatment centers, or halfway houses. For instance, the secretary may receive word from the secretary of a prison group that a newly released person is about to attend a meeting, and the “outside” group is then alerted to the arrival of this newcomer. If it is feasible, a member of the group may even offer to meet the person immediately upon release.”

(our emphasis in bold print)

Comment: (some of our commentary is included in the body of the text above - in red between square brackets).

The above sounds ….. well.... dodgy ….. especially when you consider the activities of the cult … then it sends a cold shiver down your spine. This is an example of AA 'over-organisation' at its very worst. Whoever came up with this section bears all the hallmarks of a neurotic! Maybe a 'repressed control freak' in the making! Alternatively we suggest that when a newcomer comes to a meeting someone brings them a cup of tea (or coffee) – half cup just in case they've still got the shakes.... and then sits down with them one-to-one (so they're not subjected to 'greeting overload'). That member explains the format of the meeting, assures them they are under no obligation to stay, that they don't have to say anything (unless they want to in which case they are welcome). Moreover they are not obliged to sign any papers or pay any fees. If they're not happy with what they hear they're free to leave at any time and maybe try another meeting if they want. Above all that they are welcome. No posturing or 'showing off' is required here nor do they need any more literature thrust at them other than a Where to Find, a Newcomer's pack and maybe a couple of phone numbers. They should NOT BE ASKED for their phone number or contact details (let alone put on a bloody list!). In other words pretty well the complete opposite of what is proposed in the pamphlet. It's not SO hard to behave normally is it! KEEP IT SIMPLE!

But remember: a sponsor is NOT ESSENTIAL to recovery. And NO sponsorship is better by far than BAD sponsorship!

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

(to be continued)

Monday 25 August 2014

Bill and Bob's Excellent Adventure! (contd)


A wildly imaginative dianoetic rambling concerning the the “basic text” of Alcoholics Anonymous (viz. the Big Book)



Well this page has got some 'black bits' (print) on it as well! Not terribly interesting black bits it's true, but 'black bits' nonetheless. This section is mostly self-explanatory but that won't stop us will it!

Bill Wilson (AA's co-founder) began writing the book 'Alcoholics Anonymous' in May 1938. At this time he was not even three years off the 'sauce' (so a pretty impressive achievement by anybody's standards!). Drafts were sent off periodically (and variously) to fellow wayfarers (and non-alcoholics) where they received in true AA tradition (which didn't exist then) a thorough mauling. Some people didn't like this bit and others that. Some thought there was too much of the 'God' stuff, others thought there wasn't enough, and so on and so forth (for more detail on this see 'Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age'). But if you want to get a real sense of what took place imagine a group conscience discussing some desperately important subject like who's going to be the next tea maker (see "How to make a cup of tea" the Road to Recovery (Plymouth cult group) way” - entry dated: 04/06/09) Then multiply that by a factor of a hundred or so in terms of speech-making, posturing, expressions of passion (not to say prejudice) with everyone and their brother sticking their oar in, and with the whole thing driven along by lots and lots and LOTS of resentment, and you'll get the general idea. But after the argy-bargy had died down they came up with the 1st edition (which is NOT the so-called multilith edition – yet another draft produced for consultation, and subsequently rejected as being “unworkable”). It's a pretty fair guess that no one was particularly happy with the final product because nobody got exactly what they wanted – it's called compromise – and how alcoholics hate that! In fact we reckon the real reason they finally settled on this version was that by that time everyone was heartily sick of the sight of the damn thing and just wanted done with it! The text has remained pretty much the same over the years with various forewords being added with each new edition (and with the stories being varied in an attempt to present a more representative cross-section of the fellowship).

The book itself, of course, is of a certain time and place, and reflects the society in which the author(s) grew up and lived. Most people, however, possess sufficient wit to strip away such cultural (and temporal) influences, set aside their religious (or non-religious) prejudices and extract what remains essential within the text whilst applying (or not) the information contained therein in the fashion which best suits them. For those who are unable to manage this feat this may well be due to a lack of the aforementioned faculty (which we don't believe for a second holding as we do our readership in much higher estimation! - see our “radical concepts”) or is simply an expression of pure bloody mindedness (a defect – or asset – depending on your point of view) which conversely holds wide currency within the fellowship (Ooh! 'Ark at them! They're getting a bit above themselves ain't they!) As for the book itself it makes no claim to being the last word on the subject of recovery from alcoholism nor that its approach is mandatory, a fact which is made explicit within the text:

Upon therapy for the alcoholic himself, we surely have no monopoly” (Foreword to the Second Edition, p. xxi)

Our book is meant to be suggestive only. We realize we know only a little.” (A Vision for You, p. 164)

(It's a pity the latter quote is not more frequently rehearsed in the presence of the Big Book 'nutters' who seem to take an entirely opposite tack!)

Finally the other 'black bit' worthy of note is the statement: “This is AA General Service Conference-approved literature”. Well! What the hell is that you ask? Hold on a sec! Hold on! This is what it is!


Coming next – Preface (“Oh thank God for that!” our long suffering reader exclaims)


Cheerio

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)


Caution: This curse (sorry!!) COURSE is not to be taken as AUTHORITATIVE nor is it to be regarded as DEFINITIVE in any way. Anyone found to be according it any undue status will be reported to the appropriate authorities (ie. GSO York or whoever) who will then do …. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! (quite rightly too we say!). Moreover any person discovered to be quoting from the aforementioned course will be TERMINATED with extreme prejudice!

Sunday 24 August 2014

Not so snappy quotes! (contd)


Man seeks to escape himself in myth, and does so by any means at his disposal. Drugs, alcohol, or lies. Unable to withdraw into himself, he disguises himself. Lies and inaccuracy give him a few moments of comfort.


Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to - alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person - you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain.


My peers, lately, have found companionship through means of intoxication - it makes them sociable. I, however, cannot force myself to use drugs to cheat on my loneliness - it is all that I have - and when the drugs and alcohol dissipate, will be all that my peers have as well.

Franz Kafka

Cheerio

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

Humility for Today, June, 1961, Bill W




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Saturday 23 August 2014

An Enquiry into Primary Purpose and Back to Basic AA Groups


See here

Extract:

Primary Purpose internet links and other links to Back to Basics

A network of loosely linked Primary Purpose websites, hosted by individuals and groups now exists on the internet. This provides the international communication of Primary Purpose related articles, discussions, the sale of Primary Purpose/ Back to Basics related literature, website donations and links to other organisations. The Internet communication also facilitates the formation of affiliated AA groups; and the arrangement of seminars and conventions with international speakers, which can be arranged independently of local AA intergroups(5). The website network has become a separate “virtual” group conscience to that of AA.

Due to the subtle website links, some individuals and groups may be unaware that they have become part of the alternate group conscience and the implications this has regarding AA Traditions.”

Comment: An extremely useful and well-researched article (although we wouldn't refer to them as AA groups since they are by their nature outside organisations with their own Where to Finds, literature, financing together with their own outside affiliations etc). Unfortunately many of the links which appear in the research are no longer 'live' (a frequent occurrence on the internet). However their new locations may be found with a bit of judicious research

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

Friday 22 August 2014

Have you or have you not got IT?


A reader of the blog recently wrote in to us with this enigmatic question. Apparently he (or she) had been posed it (by a recovery 'expert') whilst attending an AA meeting . Never mind Shakespeare's existential dilemma encapsulated in that immortal enquiry: “To be or not to be, that is the question”, the crucial matter for consideration these days is whether or not we've got IT! Apparently it (no ….. not that IT!) was suggested to our correspondent that they may well not have got IT in which case they'd jolly well better get a move on or …. (as is usually appended to these 'suggestions') they may well …... DRINK AGAIN! (shock horror!). So what is IT and exactly how do we get IT? Can we borrow IT? Is IT on sale at Lidl's? Is IT hiding somewhere waiting only to be discovered? Or is IT biding IT's time waiting to pounce on us as we trudge on by? Now, of course, those of us in the 'know' already .... well ..... know what IT is. We got IT a long time ago. But what about the rest of you poor things stumbling along in the dark completely ITless! Have some compassion, you say! Let us in on the secret, we beg you. What is IT? Well OK then. Just this once.... IT …..... is …...(drum roll, breath baited blah di blah di blah). IT.... is......... CONTENTED SOBRIETY (or words to that effect). What? we hear you exclaim. Is that IT you ask with a slight hint of disdain in your voice? That's the BIG deal?? Yup. That's IT! we reply though slightly disquieted by your apparent state of unimpressedness (a neologism – Shakespeare's not the only one who can make up new words). Now the term 'contented sobriety' will be heard from time to time in meetings usually expressed as an aspiration but rarely claimed as an achievement apart from those seeking to impress mere mortals such as the rest of us. Now contentment of any kind is usually a fleeting experience which vanishes before it can be thoroughly savoured. In fact the very act of delighting in it usually banishes it from our hearts as quickly as it arrived. Ordinary people (ie not recovery experts, gurus etc etc) have to make do with these fugitive moments whilst obliged otherwise to endure the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” the remainder of the time. In fact we would strongly suggest to the aforementioned 'experts' they take a gander at that particular passage from Hamlet:

To be, or not to be, that is the question—
Whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer
The Slings and Arrows of outrageous Fortune,
Or to take Arms against a Sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them? To die, to sleep—
No more; and by a sleep, to say we end
The Heart-ache, and the thousand Natural shocks
That Flesh is heir to?”

Here is a depiction of life's experiences which we would argue is slightly more accurate than that so frequently characterised by the 'happy, joyous and free' brigade (ie. cult). Sobriety, we would suggest, reflects an ability to deal with this “Sea of troubles” rather than pretending they don't exist. (Interestingly there's no mention of sponsorship in this passage! Could it be that Shakespeare didn't have a sponsor? How did he manage? Well he did have a patron but that's another matter). So, in conclusion, we'd suggest that anyone in AA who's staying off the 'sauce' one day at a time and doing what they can to “take Arms against a Sea of troubles” have probably got IT. And if you're not sure there's plenty of other things of far greater importance to concern yourself with – like paying the bills, raising the kids, …... minding your own business!

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous ….. and YEAH … we've got IT!)

Thursday 21 August 2014

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship (contd)



Extract:

Can a member sponsor more than one newcomer simultaneously?

A.A. members differ in their enthusiasm for sponsorship work, in their ability to handle it effectively, and in the time they can give. Members who are willing and able to sponsor several newcomers simultaneously should certainly not be discouraged. At the same time, it should be kept in mind that sponsorship is, in a sense, a privilege to be shared by as many members as possible and an activity that helps all members to strengthen their sobriety.

Further, members who do too much sponsorship work may get exaggerated ideas about their abilities, may even risk their own sobriety. As in so many phases of A.A., common sense is the best guide.”

(our emphases)

Comment: As we've said before anyone who's sponsoring more than maybe two or three members is probably on an ego-trip and certainly of no use to any potential sponsee; far better a one-to-one relationship. With regard to “exaggerated ideas” Clancy springs immediately to mind (together with the ever expanding ranks of 'super sobers', 'Big Book experts', 'circuit speakers', 'gurus' and sundry 'con artists' who promise a lot and deliver nothing - henceforth to be denominated the 'trouserless ones'  as in “all mouth and no trousers” (Ooh! What images spring to mind!). As for "common sense" when it comes to the cult forget it! A non-starter!

But remember: a sponsor is NOT ESSENTIAL to recovery. And NO sponsorship is better by far than BAD sponsorship!

Cheers

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

(to be continued)

Wednesday 20 August 2014

Alcohol research


An Experience of a Non-Alcoholic in Alcoholics Anonymous Leadership, Thompson HS, Quarterly Journal of Studies on Alcohol, Vol.13 (2), 272-295, 1952

The ability of a "recovered" alcoholic to gain the confidence of another alcoholic, and to arouse hope and faith in recovery, is one of the great advantages which has been capitalized upon by Alcoholics Anonymous. The two other American programs which have had success in the large-scale rehabilitation of alcoholics - the Washingtonian movement in the 1840's and the Reform Club movement (Blue and Red Ribbon movements) in the 1870's and 1880's have similarly relied upon alcoholics' telling their stories to alcoholics. A third endeavour, the Catch-My-Pal movement, begun in Ireland in 1907, also required work with other alcoholics as a part of its program. The Catch-My-Pal program explicitly recognized that "...the reclaimed drunkard is the most effective medium through which to reach other victims of the drink habit."”


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Tuesday 19 August 2014

Bill and Bob's Excellent Adventure! (contd)


Title Page




And now we come to the 'black bits' on the title page. There are two words of particular interest (or to us at least). The book is described as containing: “The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women Have Recovered from Alcoholism”

(our emphases)

Now a story is not a scholarly research article nor is it an empirically rigorous analysis. It is a story, an account, a narrative, an exploration. This does not imply it is a work of fiction (as some of AA's detractors may claim). It is an attempt (and a brave one at that) to produce a synthesis of what the alcoholics at that time believed worked well for them. They did not claim infallibility nor that there was no other way for alcoholics to recover. They simply put forward a set of suggestions (framed in an informal almost conversational style) which they believed might provide a solution for others who were similarly afflicted. The book 'Alcoholics Anonymous' is not a bible nor is it the last word on the subject of recovery from alcoholism. It is “The Story of How Many ….” etc.

Now we come to “Recovered”. If you happen to be at a bit of a loose end one day and beginning to feel a bit “dull, boring and glum” (or whatever!) then you can do a lot worse than take yourself off to an AA meeting and introduce yourself as a “recovered” alcoholic. This prefix is guaranteed to produce an almost reflex response from the other members gathered there (that is if they're of the 'recovering' kind). The reverse works just as well. Describe yourself as a 'recovering' alcoholic, especially in a roomful of Big Book nutters, and you can almost hear the ranks of teeth grinding. One of the aacultwatch team used to describe himself in the former fashion and admits now that the main reason was so he could wind up as many people as possible in the minimum amount of time. We're glad to say he's behaving himself these days and has reverted to plain 'alkie' when making his introduction. But now that everyone's apparently 'recovered' he says he doesn't want to be associated with the mere 'hoi-poloi'. It's no fun anymore! But then he is very, very, very VERY sick, poor thing! Of course the only people who could possibly be interested in the distinction would be members of the fellowship. The rest of the human race (ie. the other 99.9999999......%) couldn't give a damn or are simply thankful that we're no longer performing like complete idiots. But clearly the distinction between 'recovered' and 'recovering' is a matter of whether you regard it as something that's 'done and dusted' or a continuous process. Although the term 'recovered' is indeed employed throughout the book the fact is that recovery is explicitly stated to be an ongoing activity. Alcoholism in its chronic form is clearly not something which can be cured (although rather confusingly there is another bunch of alkies who claim precisely that – but then no one pays much attention to them!). One can take the view that as a physically and psychologically abstinent alcoholic you have 'recovered' right up to the point where you relapse whereupon you have to start again. Alternatively you can opt for the 'recovering' tag again right up to the point where you relapse … and then you have to start again! Perhaps our time and energy would be better employed in ensuring no relapse, and leave consideration of the terminology to some later date… like never! (Now how many angels can dance on the head of a pin?). Alternatively if you really want to excite attention at a meeting you could always call yourself a 'reformed' alcoholic (or 'reforming' we suppose! There's plenty of those about!). And then again if the term 'alcoholic' is losing its allure you could switch to “dipsomaniac” (or the more catchy 'dipso'). 'Lush' and 'souse' don't have quite the same ring to them. But then there's 'sot', 'inebriate', 'bacchanal', 'bibber', 'carouser', 'debauchee' (now you're talking!), 'toper', 'toss-pot' Or then again you could make up your own denomination (non-affiliated of course). eg. a 'boomerang' (as in 'Bacchus boomeranged' - 12 and12 Step Five, p. 57 , a 'nitherer' (neither here nor there), a Shirley (as in Shirley Williams – British politician – anagram: “I whirl aimlessly”) … the possibilities are literally endless!

Coming next – Copyright information (You cannot be serious! Our reader looks wistfully away searching for any sign of a wall covered with drying paint!)

Cheerio

The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)

PS For the term 'alcoholism' see here.

Caution: This curse (sorry!!) COURSE is not to be taken as AUTHORITATIVE nor is it to be regarded as DEFINITIVE in any way. Anyone found to be according it any undue status will be reported to the appropriate authorities (ie. GSO York or whoever) who will then do …. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! (quite rightly too we say!). Moreover any person discovered to be quoting from the aforementioned course will be TERMINATED with extreme prejudice!