We quote:
“Dear
fellas.
At last
weeks East Kent Intergroup AGM which I attended, there was a report
from a woman who had been subjected to bullying by a male member of
the fellowship in East Kent.
This is
not a new problem and one where it was suggested that guideline 17 be
read out at the beginning of every meeting. If matters continued,
outside organisations like the police should be involved.
What is
noted is a group member can call a group conscience at any time
during a meeting but what also should be noted is this bully
sometimes corners his female victims outside meetings.
The
treasurer of the intergroup also read out an email from someone who
decided to leave a group where this bully was bullying female
members. It was sent to the treasurer as he was requesting a receipt
for a contribution but was leaving as a group treasurer.
The
content was :-
My Dear
…...
Just a
question of a receipt for £### sent by me on behalf of ###### Wed.
I have now
left this meeting as I could no longer accept the personal behaviour
of a member.
He was
someone I was powerless over,who I come to realise I certainly could
not change.
He was a
bully to female members and that was unacceptable, that I found quite
shocking because he should of known better, and was talking the talk
but his ego it would appear,stopped him walking the walk, if you can
understand. I also know that he was economical with the
truth.(Dallas)[a reference to the Primary Purpose movement - see below]
Any way
mate that was my shit and I decided that it was best to go before I
smacked him in mouth! not PC AND IN NO WAY SPIRITUAL 'EH?.
This
bullies behaviour is not acceptable and he evidently has bullied
officers of EKIG as well.
What was
also shocking on the evening is directly after this was read out a
member of another Group felt it an appropriate time to advertise in a
'matter of fact' way a forthcoming convention.
Eh HELLO!
- it seems some group members in EKIG think its OK to gloss over this
behaviour.
I don't
know what's more shocking - the bully, them or both.
Please can
you publicise this on your website - for the record this bully is an
American who clearly sponsors himself.
Women -
please watch out for him and remember he is a bully and his behaviour
is unacceptable.
Keep up
the good work fellas”
Comment:
Well three guesses who this might be! No.. Give up! OK then....
It's none other than the local guru-in-residence and Big Book
aficionado (or one of them at least!) Harry K... aka Batman.
However Harry's reputation has spread far and wide already so this is
hardly news! Still we're happy to do our bit in bringing such
malefactors to the fellowship's attention. It is so often the case
that those who preach the loudest seldom live up even to the most
modest of expectations .. and Harry is no exception! Still the word
is that he's defected to Cocaine Anonymous where apparently he's busy
lecturing them on recovery … leather bound Big Book and all.... As
they say - our gain is their loss!
Cheerio
The Fellas
(Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS
Guidelines are all very well! But they're not much use unless they're
IMPLEMENTED!
PPS
Apparently Dover Monday is still ruminating about whether to break its affiliation
with the Primary Purpose movement. Its group details are still listed
with this outside organisation (together with the contact details for
both Harry K and Harry A (otherwise known as Harry the Handbag aka
Robin – see Batman above)). Until such time as it does Dover
Monday may not refer to itself as an AA meeting. Herne Bay Wednesday
however has decided to remain listed with Primary Purpose and
similarly therefore may no longer be considered - or refer to itself
as - an AA meeting.
