Saturday, 30 June 2012
Friday, 29 June 2012
Mars landing! One small step for Wayne!
Well
we don't propose to discuss further Wayne P's current
circumnavigation of the solar system. However In his latest offering (via
the unendorsed Road to Recovery (Plymouth) cult group website) an act
of contrition is almost presented, but then undermined by some rather
bizarre posturing! Something along the lines of: “Well I shot
myself in the foot but then hobbled on regardless (sounds like a good
title for a Carry On film!) undeterred by my act of extreme
stupidity(?), and moreover rendered (apparently) all the more
heroic for it!” More interestingly though this rather rambling
piece is illustrative of the controlling (and spiritually
debilitating) sponsorship system which underscores the cult's
philosophy(?). We discover that Wayne “took the steps (?) 24 years
ago” so on that basis we'd have to assume somebody in their fifties
or sixties. During this time he has been accompanied by a sponsor
“With an arm around my shoulder or a boot up my ass”, this poor
unfortunate apparently doomed to a lifetime of keeping (rather
unsuccessfully - and whilst hopping on one foot presumably!)) Wayne
on the straight and narrow (ie. the Road of Happy Destiny). Now this
does rather beg the question: Why would any adult require such
supervision? It might be understandable if one were dealing with a
juvenile delinquent or a more than slightly truculent teenager. But
someone in their fifties? Surely not! The law, certainly, regards
someone of this age to be capable of making sound decisions, and of
possessing a capacity to distinguish between right and wrong; in
other words of acting both judiciously and ethically. However the
main impact of the cult sponsorship system (some of whose unhealthy
tendencies are seeping into AA) is to render impotent the sponsee,
curtail their faculty of judgement, absolve them from the exercise of
responsibility, and moreover separate them from the full consequences of their
actions (as in “My sponsor said...”, “My sponsor told me....”,
“I always do what my sponsor....” and so on). Thus they are
trapped in a cycle of futile dependency, and are quite unable to
function apparently without reference to this font of all wisdom,
their All-Powerful, All-Seeing and All-Knowing sponsor. As for the
deleterious impact on the latter this is patently obvious. The
relationship simply serves to pander to their craving for power and
turns a budding control freak into an egocentric monster (see
narcissism)...
eg. David B, David C, Clancy I, Mike Q …..and sundry other 'big
fish' swimming around (in circles) in little ponds! Both Bill W and
Dr Bob warned of the dangers of “sponsor worship” and “unhealthy
dependency”, an admonition which the cult have clearly elected to
ignore in pursuit of their own twisted agenda. Their notions of
sponsorship err at best towards sentimentalism as they adopt a
patronising even proprietorial attitude to their 'charges' (e.g. my
sponsee, or even worse my “pigeon” (the latter widely regarded in Britain as
a type of 'flying rat')), and at worst towards the sinister as in
Joe McQ's comment about 'sponsorees'
[sic]:
“But
an alcoholic can do just about anything you make her do. If you
insist that she do certain things, she’ll get them done” and so
on in a similar vein.
Far
from encouraging the individual to develop a relationship with a
Greater Power of “their understanding” he or she is offered
instead an all-too-frail and transient human version, and this despite
the clear warning to the contrary:
“Probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism” (BB. Chapter 5)
“Probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism” (BB. Chapter 5)
The
second rate here is offered as if there were no choice when in fact in real life (or for adults at least!) there are ALWAYS choices, some of
which though we'd rather not make! And they are OUR choices - not someone else's!
Facts:
There is NO mention of either sponsorship, sponsees or sponsors in
the Big Book, in the preamble, in the steps or in the traditions (and as far as we
know in the Concepts either). The word “sponsee” (or indeed
“sponsoree”) will not be found in any dictionary.
But
if you're absolutely determined to get a sponsor at least have the
good sense to do a bit of research. Firstly see here: Questions and Answers on Sponsorship.
Next
- there's no rush! Sponsorship is NOT one of the essentials of
recovery! But honesty is!
Finally -
don't be too easily impressed. The following can easily be dispensed
with: circuit speakers, Big Book 'experts', the local guru (no matter
how prettily they speak!), anyone who's been immortalised on audio
media (CDs and the rest), members who are apparently almost orgasmic
with gratitude ALL of the time, the "misery is optional" brigade, service bores, religious nutters, sponsor obsessives, and
all other sundry emotional manipulators. On the other hand maybe the
following might be worth a second look: boring people who are just
getting on with it, raising kids, going to work and all that routine
kind of stuff, who don't make speeches, and just tell their story
without any big fanfare or fuss!
Cheerio
The
Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS
We've recently heard (via our reporter from the Canterbury
(Kent) cult convention) that sponsors should now be regarded as
“Godfathers”! Can we take it from this that we are all shortly
to be made “an offer we can't refuse” by someone who bears a
marked resemblance to an overweight hamster with a serious speech
impediment? And by the way …. look out for the horse's head!
Thursday, 28 June 2012
Wednesday, 27 June 2012
AA Minority report 2012 (continued)(17)
Are
today’s AA members generally being made fully aware of the depth of
the mental illness of alcoholism?
Dr.
Harry M. Tiebout. M.D. (Therapeutic Mechanism of Alcoholics
Anonymous, The American Journal of Psychiatry, January 1944.
“Characteristic
of the so-called typical alcoholic is a narcissistic egocentric core,
dominated by feelings of omnipotence, intent on maintaining at all
costs its inner integrity. While these characteristics are found in
other maladjustments, they appear in relatively pure culture in
alcoholic after alcoholic. In a careful study of a series of cases,
Sillman reported that he felt he could discern the outlines of a
common character structure among problem drinkers and that the best
terms he could find for the group of qualities noted was ‘defiant
individuality’ and ‘grandiosity’. In my opinion these words
were accurately chosen… … … This experience I label for want of
a better term, a ‘psychological awakening.’… … … In
retrospect, it is apparent that the patient became aware of his basic
ego centricity. For the first time he was able to penetrate behind
the façade of his rationalisations and defence reactions and to see
that always hitherto he had put himself first. He was literally
unaware that other souls existed except insofar as they affected him…
… … While one can question the permanence of this new pattern,
there can be no question as to the fact that the experience itself
occurred…. … … The narcissistic component in the character is
submerged, at least for the time being… … Regardless of his final
conception of that power, unless the individual attains in the course
of time a sense of the reality and nearness of a Greater Power, his
egocentric nature will re- assert itself with undiminished intensity,
and drinking will again enter into the picture…” (Extracts) (AA
Comes of Age, Appendix E:b, page 309-317)
ALCOHOLISM AS A MANIFESTATION OF ALLERGY W.D. Silkworth
Medical
Record, March 17, 1937
“Alcoholism
is considered by many physicians a chronic condition that gradually
unfolds itself to a dismal end… … … It is our purpose to show
that there is a type of alcoholism characterised by a definite
symptomatology [sic] and fixed diagnosis of a constant and specific
pathology; in short, that true alcoholism is a manifestation of an
allergy… … … he now has to drink from necessity in order to
keep going… … Later, irritability and lack of concentration
supervene. He is not the man temperamentally that he used to be… …
…he is compelled to increase the amount he consumes, and a
prolonged spree replaces a short intoxication… … …He has a
feeling of anxiety which amounts to a nameless terror… … …At
this point, even during periods of partial or complete sobriety, he
develops a state of vague fear, then depression and lack of
concentration… … … He is under such tension in the effort to
control himself that he has to have a drink in order to hold himself
together… … But he believes he must have it, even though he
realises that, in his particular case, a single drink will plunge him
into such a condition that a prolonged spree will be the inevitable
result. After the first drink, and only then, does he experience the
physical phenomenon of craving… … … I can not emphasis too
strongly the point that this man does not go on a spree for pure
deviltry or desire…… The inevitable conclusion is that true
alcoholism is an allergic state, the result of gradually increasing
sensitization by alcohol over a more or less extended time…”
(Extracts) (Medical Record, March 17, 1937)
“My
Dear Dr. Jung … … This letter has been long overdue…. … …
Though Rowland H., has long since passed away, the recollections of
his remarkable experience while under treatment by you has definitely
become part of A.A. history…. … … … Having exhausted other
means of recovery from his alcoholism it was about 1931 that he
became your patient … … … I believe he remained under your care
for perhaps a year… … … He then relapsed into intoxication ...
… … … Then followed a conversation between you that was to
become the first link in a chain of events that led to the founding
of Alcoholics Anonymous…. … … First of all, you frankly told
him of his hopelessness, so far as any further medical or psychiatric
treatment might be concerned. This candid and humble statement
of yours was no doubt the first foundation stone upon which our
society was built … (Extracts) (AA Grapevine January 1963. Language
of the Heart page 276-279)
Dr.
Bob:
“You
see, back in those days, we were groping in the dark,” Dr. Bob
said. “We knew practically nothing of alcoholism.” (Dr. Bob and
the Good Old Timers page 104)
“Medical
textbooks weren’t very helpful, either, Bob said. ‘Usually, the
information consisted of some queer treatment for D.T.’s, if a
patient had gone that far. If he hadn’t you prescribed a few
bromides and gave the fellow a good lecture.” (Dr. Bob and the Good
Old Timers page 105)
A
list of some of A.A.’s other roots:
Dr.
W.W. Bauer; American Medical association. A.A. Comes of Age p.4
Dr. Earl M. A.A. Comes of Age p.4
Dr. John L. Norris, (non-alcoholic trustee), Pass it On page 268
Dr.
O. A. Kilpatrick, psychiatrist [in
charge New York State mental institution, nonalcoholic, spoke 2nd
Intentional Convention St. Louis 1955], Pass
it On, page 358
Dr. Ester L. Richards, Pass it On, page 201
Dr. Leonard V. Strong, Jr.(non-alcoholic trustee), Pass it On, pp181-184
Dr.
A. Wiese Hammer [wife
Helen; Philadelphian; told friend Judge Curtis Bok owner publisher
Saturday
Evening Post about
A.A.; had Jack Alexander do story; secured Philadelphia Group
1st meeting rooms, introduced Dr.
Stouffer chief psychiatrist Philadelphia General Hospital to
A.A., visited other cities with A.A. members to talk A.A. up;
paid their expenses, offered buy club house], Language of the Heart, page 362
Dr.
Stouffer, Chief psychiatrist Philadelphia General Hospital Language
of the Heart, page 363
Dr.
Dudley Saul [chief
resident of St. Lukes’s and Children’s Hospital],
Language of the Heart, page 363
Dr.
Kirby Collier [psychiatrist,
with Dr. Harry Tiebout; Dr. Foster Kennedy responsible for Bill speaking at 2 medical societies, endorsed paper Bill read 1944 Medical
Society New York annual meeting, early advocate A.A],
Language
of the Heart, page 370
Dr.
Dwight Anderson [with
Dr. Kirby Collier persuaded Medical Society of New York State, 1944,
and Psychiatric Association, 1949, to let Bill W. read papers about
A.A. at annual gatherings],
Language of the Heart, page 370
Dr.
Dan Craske, [Chicago
doctor with spinal fluid theory of alcoholics],
AA Comes of Age, page 22
Dr.
Brown, [Evanston,
Indiana, introduced several patients to Earl T],
AA
Comes of Age, page 22
Dr.
Johnstone, psychiatrist, AA Comes of Age, page 29
Dr.
Foster Kennedy, [world
renowned neurologist; attended and spoke at John D. Rockefeller's
A.A. dinner February, 1940, represented medical profession; with Dr.
Harry Tiebout and Dr. Kirby Collier ; responsible for Bill speaking
to two medical societies; defended A.A. in A.M.A.; endorsed the paper
Bill read at the 1944 Medical Society of New York annual meeting;
used term "X
factor."
"There
is something at work in A.A. that we do not understand. We call this
'the X factor.' You people call it God. You can't explain God and
neither can we -- especially at the New York Academy of Medicine."],
AA
Comes of Age, page 183
Do
statements such as the following in public relations give an
impression of A.A. As being religious?
“The
origins of Alcoholics Anonymous can be traced to the Oxford Group, a
religious movement popular in the United States and Europe in the
early 20th century. Members of the Oxford Group practiced a formula
of self-improvement by performing self-inventory, admitting wrongs,
making amends, using prayer and meditation, and carrying the message
to others”.
Early
A.A. history does appear to tell us that the more we focus on the “religious
/spiritual” aspect in our public relations and newcomer relations,
the less appealing we will be to the majority of still suffering
alcoholics, and to the
professionals
who refer them to us. It would appear the same is true today.
“Scared
Off” AA Grapevine November 1998
“I
could not agree more that when a meeting is closed with hand-holding
the Lord's Prayer, we may lose many a newcomer. This has been my
experience over the years. I have "lost" many a hard-bitten
alcoholic who has scornfully left, saying: "I want none of that
religious stuff!" and the like.”
For
myself, I also have a feeling that once more organized religion, in
this case, Christianity, is being subtly introduced into our
program.”
“Cult-like
or welcoming? Reluctant conformity” AA Grapevine December 2010
“I
am a former member of a religious cult, and my children consider AA
to be similar in some ways. I am also not comfortable with holding
hands and saying the Lord's Prayer at the end of a meeting for the
same reason. AA is a spiritual, not a religious, program. I conform
because that is how I've been taught and I don't want to appear
different, but I would love to see this change for the benefit of
everyone in the Fellowship, regardless of beliefs.”
“Why
are we shouting? Chanting is bad for AA’s public relations, an
old-timer asserts”. AA Grapevine September 2010
“…By
1988, in my experience, the "Hi, Bob!" chant was pretty
much commonplace at meetings in the Northeast. This is a meeting of
Alcoholics Anonymous, where we share our experience, strength and
hope.
It
is not a cult, religion or group therapy… … … An AA friend was
watching television in the late 90s' when a show portrayed a
facsimile of an AA meeting… … … My friend said that her husband
actually laughed out loud when the group chanted: "Hi, Bill!"
she said her husband asked sarcastically, "Is this the AA that
you go to?" What does this mean? It means that we are a joke to
much of the public. Our public relations are harmed, therefore
reducing the effectiveness of Alcoholics Anonymous. … … … I had
my last drink of alcohol in February 1970 and was active in AA
through the '70s… … How many more alcoholics must perish before
we reverse this religious cult thing that I feel Alcoholics Anonymous
has morphed
into… …Anyone listening?”
“Cult-like
or just welcoming? Meetings filled with religiosity”, AA Grapevine
December 2010
“Oh
yes, I am listening, Bob. And I have done just that . . . stopped
going to meetings, pretty much. I got sober in Chicago 37 years ago
and have been sober one day at a time since, all thanks to AA, its
members, service work and regular attendance at meetings. But about
10 or so years ago I noticed my attendance at meetings was dropping
off. That started the round of checking out all sorts of groups in my
area, only to find a level of noise, chanting and cult-like
religiosity that I found very off-putting. One day at a time might
change how I see things, but for now my Higher Power, AA friends and
the Big Book will have to be enough”.
“Dear
Grapevine, My AA” AA Grapevine November 2010
“I
have been sober since 1968 and am afraid that I won't recognize my AA
in another 15 years… … it seems that no one realizes that the
Lord's Prayer is not in agreement with our Preamble. And I personally
don't care for the chanting and pumping of the hands… … I have
three alcoholic children, two of whom are in recovery. I have
grandchildren and great-grandchildren and I want the program to be
there when they need it.”
Bill
W:
“Finally,
I am often asked why I do not publicly acknowledge my very real debt
of gratitude to the Oxford Group. The answer is that, unfortunately,
a vast and sometimes unreasoning prejudice exists all over this
country against the O.G. and its successor M.R.A. My dilemma is that
if I make such an acknowledgement, I may establish a connection
between the O. G. and Alcoholics Anonymous which does not exist at
the present time. I had to ask myself which was more important: that
the O.G. receive credit and that I have the pleasure of so
discharging my debt of gratitude, or that alcoholics everywhere have
the best possible chance to stay alive regardless of who gets
credit.” (Bill W. Pass It On page 173)
Section
10
Conclusion
This
report gives analysis of hazardous departure from Tradition, serious
and growing internal divisions and public concerns.
There
is evidence Alcoholics Anonymous is being influenced by outside
business interests; a minority of A.A. groups are adopting organised
educational programs, hierarchical pyramid power structures and
international affiliations. There is evidence of fundamentalist
Christian literature distorting AA history to the extent that it
presents early A.A. groups as evangelical Christian Oxford Groups and
which advocates their return. There is evidence in the press,
internet and within the fellowship that AA is beginning to get the
reputation of being a religious cult.
A
widespread and hazardous misconception in the application of A.A.
Traditions presents a situation in A.A. where neither A.A. Tradition,
nor General Warranties of Conference are withstanding. Unless
remedial action is taken at all levels, the present dynamics in A.A.
parallel that of the Washingtonian movement and signal an early
warning of impending collapse.
This
report makes recommendations.
“Of
highest importance would be our relations with medicine and religion.
Under no circumstances must we get into competition with either. If
we appeared to be a new religious sect, we’d be done for. (Bill W.
AA Grapevine June 1955, Language of the Heart page 150)
“Education
will not only pay off in numbers treated; it can pay off even more
handsomely in prevention… … it is both a community job and a job
for specialists… … but AA as such cannot, and should not, get
directly into this field.” (Bill W. AA Grapevine March 1958.
Language of the Heart page 186-187)
“We
are sure that each group of workers in world service will be tempted
to try all sorts of innovations that may often produce little more
than painful repetition earlier mistakes. Therefore it will be an
important objective of these Concepts to forestall such repetitions
by holding the experiences of the past clearly before us. And if
mistaken departures are nevertheless made, these Concepts may then
provide a ready means of safe return to an operating
balance that might otherwise take years of floundering to
rediscover.”
The
“AA Service manual combined with the Twelve Concepts for World
Service” online:
Minority
report submitted August 2011, revised and re-submitted October 2011.
Background
documents enclosed.
THE
END
Cheerio
The
Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS See also:
PS See also:
The
above are the more thoughtful ones ….. otherwise the list goes on
.. and on ….ad …..
PPS
We're looking forward to the revised version of the Minority report
with great interest
Tuesday, 26 June 2012
Monday, 25 June 2012
Ealing: Insights into some of the cult 'personalities'
“There
are actually 2 brands or strains of the cult here. One is led by a
man called Patrick who is sponsored by a Scottish old timer called
Don who was a sponsee of David B and attended the Joys of Recovery in
the old days before Vision[s] was established. The groups Patrick
influences are much more toned down. They preach the 6 [suggestions]
things and 14 defects version of step 4 etc, but it is not as "cult
like" as the Vision[s]. However having said that, Patrick is
getting worse and more extreme. He is mesmerized by Dennis and has
swallowed the yarn about AA being less successful than it was because
of the mainstream of AA adopting treatment centre ideas and not doing
the steps properly.”
“Then we
have our "Happy Dennis", who is, I think, still sponsored
by David [Icons] C. His groups are off the Richter scale in happy
talk. People are expected to jump up and down for joy after they say
the serenity prayer. Also the last time I attended one of his groups,
on Saturday morning at Bayham Road, Dennis was sharing that he was
"supercalifragilisticexpialidociously happy" (!!!!) He
also "jumps" every time he speaks to you, to show you how
happy he is. From a distance it looks like he has a permanent bad
case of hiccoughs. (!!!!)
Finally to
Denis' execrable sponsor - the Icon. You mentioned his so-called "way
of beauty" (a fascist concept if ever there was) . Have you seen
his TV series [web show] ?? ...
He
rubbishes modern art in a most ignorant way. And in the program about
the art of other cultures he successfully insults Buddhism and Hindu
art saying that he wouldn't have it in his house or even his garden,
but would (mercifully!!) stop short or smashing it with a hammer!!
Wow, how good of him! You really couldn't make up this level of
arrogance. It reflects everything ….. regarding his prejudice
against "eastern" art and philosophy and his obsession with
extreme Catholicism. So sad he also pushes this puke-inducing garbage
into the domain of AA !!”
An Ealing
cult meeting:
“There
were about 30 people present. On each chair there was a copy of a
little yellow booklet (A6 size) of about 28 pages entitled " BIG
BOOK QUOTES" and containing selected quotations from the Big
Book taken from every chapter of the first 164 pages (main text)
plus a few pages from the stories section of the book.....
The format
of the meeting was that a passage from the Big Book was read out (on
this occasion it was a few pages from Bill's Story) However I did
notice that at least half of the meeting (which largely consisted of
young men in their early days/years), were looking at and reading
from the yellow BIG BOOK QUOTES rather than from a copy of our AA
Big Book.
After the
passage was read out, they were instructed by Dennis (aka "happy
Dennis" or "Mad Dennis" depending on your
perspective) to share according to his numbered selected quotes from
his compilation of BIG BOOK QUOTES. This was to be their reference
for sharing in the meeting. The format is explained in the little
yellow booklet. The yellow book of course has been compiled and
concocted by Mad Dennis himself. …..... And on the back cover,
the website of our modern-and-pagan-art-iconoclast extreme Catholic
friend David C........, …..... is advertised - apparently "we"
find it a very good website to look at!! Who "we" are is
not fully explained.
In
addition to the yellow book of quotations there was a PINK CARD [Ealing cult meeting list] on
the literature table. The literature table was not very well supplied
with the full range of AA literature by the way.”
“Dennis
F is a VERY self-willed and somewhat childish, yet charismatic
individual. He uses very flamboyant and exaggerated language. He
says things like "I'm very very very very very very happy... and
I'm even more happy than that" etc. Then he giggles in a
childish way. Ken Dodd is a good comparison, but not so benign.
Dennis has no humility whatsoever. For him, humility is just a
morning pose (kneeling posture) and then he gets up and dedicates
himself to control and domination ...”
“The
best comparison I can make about Dennis is he talks fast like someone
hypermanic. He is always "happy" but I would call it mania
more than happiness. It isn’t a sober happy anyway. He is an
attention seeker and a control freak and has been since day one. His
idea of humility is that you get on your knees - in other words
humility is a pose or a posture not a modus operandi or an attitude.
He giggles childishly and makes up doggerel "poetry" about
being happy etc. He constantly misquotes the literature to suit his
own ends. He is overbearing and domineering. He is a narcissist - he
wants everyone to agree with him and to be a reflection of himself.
In other words he is a typical cult guru with a personality
disorder.......”
Comment:
It's nice to know that AA is in such safe and SANE hands!
Cheerio
The Fellas
(Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS We have
received some complaints about the Monday Step 3 7 and 11 meeting
held at Richmond Bridge at 6.15pm (?)
Sunday, 24 June 2012
Links and downloads
Models of Alcoholism Used in Treatment: Contrasting A.A. and Other Models with Which it is Often Confused
Spirituality and Recovery: the Historical Journey
Whatever Happened to Twelve-Step Programs?
Why A.A. Works: The Intellectual Significance of Alcoholics Anonymous
Here's to Spuds MacKenzie!
- See also Links and downloads
Saturday, 23 June 2012
Wayne P: Space Cadet!
Phew! Just
as we were getting a bit worried that Wayne P (Plymouth Road to
Recovery cult group) might be going off the boil imagine our relief
when we discovered the latest offering from this budding
astronaut-to-be!
[Note:
we've been careful to take a screen shot of this one because his
insightful contributions (both audio and text – remember the
“Beano” readers comment? No! Well we do!) tend to appear then
disappear with frightening rapidity. But we really do think this
particular contribution should be preserved for all posterity].
So step
aside Bill! Move over Dr Bob! There's a new commentator in town!
Introducing Buzz Lightyear: "To infinity...... and beyond!"
Now
according to Buzz.... sorry …. Wayne.... “being rocketed into the
fourth dimension can sometimes FEEL different to orbiting the earth”
as he likens the experience to: “discovering the adventure of
life”. Well we've got to hand it to our intrepid explorer! We're
not quite sure how many times Wayne's been “rocketed” - or indeed
whether he's even returned - but for our part we've hardly ever
orbited the planet so we'd be hard pushed to make the comparison.
But we've checked with NASA concerning their flight crews' list
though they haven't got back to us on Wayne's hitherto unannounced
participation in the space programme ...... YET.
Notwithstanding,
Wayne waxes lyrical on the subject with allusions to “launch pads”,
“lift offs” and so forth. If he hasn't been sent into orbit he
seems to know an awful lot about the subject. Perhaps this is a case
of alien abduction? Anything's possible isn't it when you join up
with the Road to Recovery gang!
However it
transpires that perhaps being “rocketed” too far - and for all we
know too often - into the exosphere (Ooh! We can do technical as
well!) can be bad for your health. Indeed this would seem to be no
guarantee of long term sobriety. But Wayne's a chap who keeps his
feet (quite contradictorily!) firmly on the ground shunning the
ephemeral delights of zero gravity. Not for him the heady delectation
of strolling around the galaxy! No sireee! If he's going to be
doing any rocketing it's going to be much closer to Mother Earth!
Indeed it would seem he'd rather be in Mission Control providing the
“flight plan called “experience””.
Ah well!
Once a control freak always a control freak!
Over and
out! (to the strains of Space Oddity by David Bowie)
Major Tom
(A Friend of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS Note
the barely legible disclaimer at the bottom of the screen shot:
“©
Road to Recovery Group 2012. This site is
NOT APPROVED OR ENDORSED BY ALCOHOLICS
ANONYMOUS. …....”
(our
emphasis)
Thursday, 21 June 2012
Wednesday, 20 June 2012
The Four Absolutes
Extract:
“I
have no doubt that David C was the author of the sexual conduct section, and the recommended reading list, and indeed
much of the rest of the document as well. It is in his distinctive
cold mechanical style and has his "spiritual fingerprints"
all over it. The entire document is called "Companion to the Big
Book" and was given to me some years ago now by a young woman
who was greatly distressed at having been given this document at the
Kingston Hill meeting ( now Hampton Wick [Friday]). She shared at my
home group and was in tears about it. I asked her to give me the
document, which she did the following week. The entire document runs
into nearly 60 pages, only 2 of which I scanned and posted to you.
This young lady, who has since left AA, told me that John B was most
annoyed at her when she threatened to send it to GSO in York. ….....
Until I saw your website I really didn’t pay all that much
attention to the document, I read through it briefly …..... and
then put it away. It was sitting on my book shelf largely ignored for
years!
Here
is a quote from the AA beginners website discussing Step 12, It is
also found word for word in the document "Companion to the Big
Book"
“We
have also come across other ways of testing whether our behaviour is
right. Perhaps they might be helpful to you: If we are faced with a
choice, it is often easier to say what is not God's will. For
example, it cannot be God's will that we do anything dishonest,
impure, selfish or unloving (these were the guides used by a lot of
the early AAs).”
Now
this idea is taken from a book by Wally P called Back to
Basics........ It was supposedly the practice of the early Oxford
Group members to "discern" the "will of God" by
applying the Four Absolutes to any idea or inspiration one had
"received" during morning meditation and "quiet time"
[Note:
the Four Absolutes themselves are supposedly derived from a book by
Dr R Speer: “The Principles of Jesus”. The Four Absolutes. See also: What did A.A. learn from the Oxford Group and why did they leave them?]
Of
course, all this stuff about what the Oxford Group did, and applying
the Four Absolutes etc, arrogantly assumes that you believe in the
same Higher Power - the same God - as Bill W and the founders; and
indeed the same God as David C and his collaborator. Unfortunately
for them I don't. I have a Higher Power of my own understanding who
doesn't send cryptic messages via "quiet time" which need
to be tested by applying Four Absolutes, and then have to be further
endorsed and verified by an approved sponsor …...... Real awkward
customer I am!”
(our
edits)
Cheers
The
Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS
Our usual thanks to this contributor
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Tuesday, 19 June 2012
Monday, 18 June 2012
A miscellany of cult dogma and hypocrisy!
Did you
know...
David B
(founder of the cult in London) who constantly exhorted anyone and
everyone in earshot to get a sponsor - and “do exactly what your
sponsor tells you” – didn't have one himself!
Extracts:
“David
B's non existent sponsor, or "The Invisible Man" as I call
him. The identity of David's sponsor seemed to change depending on
who he was talking to......he just couldn’t find a sponsor in the
UK who was sufficiently informed or conversant with the Program to be
his sponsor. ( !!!!! ) So, in other words, in all our fair, green
and pleasant land there was not one AA member who was good enough to
sponsor David. He tried and tried and tried but he just could not
find anyone, poor chap! However he did eventually find a man in
America called ........, with whom he talked over the phone to from time
to time ( or so he claimed). This "......." upon later
investigation ( after David's death) turned out to be drinking low
alcohol lager and completely unaware of being anyone's sponsor. Yet
this individual was good enough for David !! You really couldn’t
make it up!
David B
…... on cooking with alcohol:
“David B
used to invite some sponsees/group members to his flat in Fulham for
a meal. It was his practice to cook with alcohol ( using wine in a
coq-au-vin recipe for example). He would say that it gave his food "a
certain extra something". Well it sure did, because even after 2
1/2 hours of cooking at least 5% of the alcohol is still retained
after cooking. I don’t think David was aware of this scientific
fact. I wasn't myself until recently. However, in view of the fact
that alcoholism is partly a mental obsession, I always thought it
was totally inappropriate to present food to recovering alcoholics
which had been cooked with alcohol and expect them to eat it as a
fait accompli. In other words they were put in a position where it
would have been seen as rude to refuse. It is certainly not something
I would do myself. I felt David B was playing around with alcohol and
with other people's sobriety, which David did without a care to the
possible consequences to himself or others.
By the
way, here is a link for further information regarding the retention
of alcohol after cooking
I was
surprised myself to learn about this, as I too always thought that
cooking boiled off the entire alcohol content. It doesn't.”
Roman
Catholicism and the cult:
“The
intrusion of Roman Catholic dogma, practice and moral teaching into
AA and repackaging it to newcomers as if it were AA. The attendance
of David B and his closest circle at the Brompton Oratory Catholic
Church in Kensington, and the close and public relationship of David
C with the Catholic Church. The importing of Catholicism into AA
under the guise of "working the program"....... a young man
…. [was] …. sacked by his Vision sponsor after this sponsor had
suggested he should consider becoming a Catholic and the young man
refused. This young man's experience of AA was completely ruined by
this experience and in spite of many attempts to help him and
reassure him of the real AA message, he eventually left the
fellowship.”
Moreover:
“The
promoting and intrusion of highly contentious and controversial
opinions on many outside issues and presenting them as AA under the
cover of being "spiritual" Including:-
MEDICAL
AND PSYCHOLOGICAL MATTERS - Medications for depression and other
conditions were frowned upon and newcomers were told to come off
medication or they could not proceed with the program. Similarly
newcomers were told to discontinue any therapy or counselling. Also
David C had highly contentious views on psychology, especially about
Sigmund Freud, whom he often derided and rubbished.
RELIGION -
David C "the Icon" said that if you wanted to follow a
religious faith outside of AA you should select a "Western
Faith" i.e. some form of Christianity - and especially
Catholicism. The Icon was particularly scathing about Eastern forms
of religion, philosophy, meditation and spiritual practice. This
prejudice can be clearly seen in his recommended reading list of
Helpful Books at the end of the "Companion to the Big Book"
document (mostly written by David C), which is completely Christian
in outlook and largely Catholic in flavour. Also his patronising and
ignorant view about meditation as not being about seeking "
altered states of consciousness, out-of-body experiences or the like
" - revealed in his "bigbookrecovery" website section
on Step 11.
MORALITY -
sex before marriage, birth control and abortion - all were
forbidden at Vision mirroring the Catholic church's stand on these
issues) David C had skilful and lengthy arguments to justify these
rules, all of which break AA Traditions
POLITICS
AND SOCIETY – [according to] David B …... the best social system
that had ever existed was the Feudal System ( !!!!!! ) The Feudal
System if you recall from school history lessons, is the medieval
social system where the King is the absolute ruler at the top, then
come various strata of Lords, Nobles and Barons beneath him, and the
poor serfs at the bottom ..... need I say more??
ART AND
MUSIC. Modern Art and contemporary music were frowned upon,
especially by the "Icon" who said that modern art and rock
music were "unspiritual" and self-absorbed. ….... a young
musician …. [was] …. told by his Vision sponsor that he could not
play in a professional rock band because rock music was "unspiritual"
and "against God" and therefore against the program. David
C developed a theory which declared that all self-expression in art
and music is "wrong" and that all art and music should be
for the greater glory of "God". (...and which God should be
glorified?? Why, The Icon's God, of course!!)
Misogyny,
homophobia and religious apartheid. David B used to say that women
were somehow "less able to get the message" than men. He
said this as an attempt to rationalise the fact that the Vision
group was so dominated by men, especially young men. This male
domination is one of the hallmarks of the cult groups, even after
David died. [Dave C also subscribed to this view]. Also David B
would say the same thing about gay people that they were somehow less
capable of accepting his wonderful message (perhaps they were simply
as repelled by it as the women were!!). Also there was an incident
after David died when a Jewish member of a Vision group was attracted
to a young lady who was a Catholic. Dave C "the Icon", then
in charge of Vision, advised him to stay clear of this potential
relationship because the two faiths were, in his view, "incompatible"
and there could be "problems" which could lead to
drinking!! I really felt at the time that this would have brought
AA into serious disrepute if, say, the media had got a hold of this
story. The Jewish man eventually left AA. Who could blame him!
David B
made up a rule that each group member should have 2 service
commitments. This was in spite of the fact that David himself did not
have a single service commitment for 10 years. A clear example of
"do what I say and not as I do" (or don't do in David's
case). His reasons for not having a service commitment were, he said,
on account of his illness. Yet he was well enough to command and
control an empire of sponsees that stretched from London to Plymouth,
and from Ireland to the USA !! Also all group consciences were
effectively controlled by David B through the mechanism of
sponsorship and a group Steering committee which he directed. Yet he
wasn't able to wash up a single coffee cup on account of "illness".
Perhaps the "illness" in question was not the one he
thought it was !
David B
ruled that recovering alcoholics cannot become social workers, counsellors, therapists or ministers of religion. This is in
clear contradiction to what is found in the chapter on Tradition 8 in
the 12x12, where such as view is described as "anti-social".
His reasons were that there might be a "conflict of obedience"
or approach between AA and the organisation employing the AA member
as a therapist, priest etc. This is tantamount to saying that AA is
incompatible with the real world. The true reason of course was that
knowledge and education on spiritual or psychological matters would
reveal David B to be the charlatan he was. This was the real
"conflict of obedience" - obedience to David and his
madness.
David also
ruled that no alcoholic can do voluntary work outside 12 step
activity. Again contradicting conference approved literature which
states clearly ( in the book Living Sober) that such activity is
recommended as a possible way of being useful and distracting us from
drinking.
Breaking
confidences: After David sacked a sponsee. he would tell other members details of that person's life which justified him sacking
that person. I felt this was an abuse of trust. Also because of the
hierarchical nature of the Vision, private details about sponsees
were "passed up the chain of command" if a sponsor felt it
was necessary. This happened particularly if the sponsor was
relatively new and not fully conversant with all the many rules and
regulations practised at Vision.
The
horrible cross-sharing and humiliation of visitors and guest speakers
at Vision by members of the Cult. This included, on one occasion,
the cross-sharing of a man with over 40 years sobriety.
The fierce
opposition to any form of regulation regarding personal conduct, How
the cult, led then by David C, vehemently opposed a discussion
document on Personal Behaviour and Conduct which was circulated
around the year 2000 (I cannot now remember the exact year this was
circulated). The brouhaha regarding the dismissal of 2 Board members
including the London Board Member ("American Mary" ) and
how Cult members even considered leaving AA and founding a separate
fellowship. Such is their loyalty to AA. “
Comment:
Welcome to the cult's fascist agenda!
Cheerio
The Fellas
(Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
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