Some
insights into cult member traits.
“Selfishness
and Narcissism in Family Relationships
Narcissism
as a psychological definition is typically seen as self-involved
attitudes and behavior where there is little or no empathy for
others. Narcissistic wounding starts early in life to children whose
parents are insecure, abusive, addictive or have narcissistic
patterns themselves.
Narcissistic
injury happens to the child when his or her emotional needs are not
met. The narcissistic parent has unresolved needs for attention and
caretaking because his or her needs were not met in their early life.
Neglect, physical, mental and sexual abuse, being spoiled and not
given structure and limits create the wounding. Narcissism can be an
inflated ego sub part or the trait can take over the personality.
Narcissistic attitudes and behavior come from the ego defenses that
function as smoke screens to hide the deep shame and fractures that
came from being hurt emotionally or physically as a child.
The
child who was not allowed to have boundaries becomes energetically
and developmentally arrested at this level with beliefs of not being
safe in the world and being unworthy and unlovable. Thus the Shadow
is born with the defenses and negative core beliefs becoming set in
the child's repertoire. The child carries this primitive,
self-defense core of fear even into adulthood. This is called the
"Core Script" or Core Identity, which is like a big lens of
perception by which the world is viewed. The defenses remain lurking
in the unconscious mind ready to be called into action at any
resemblance of threat.”
Cheerio
The
Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
PS
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