Extracts
from the aacultwatch forum (old)
“Follow
the AA program, not your sponsor. If you have a good sponsor she will
encourage you to do this. If she doesn't, then she might not be
following the AA program herself. It might be better to have no
sponsor, than to have a bad one to lead you astray. Having a sponsor
in A.A. is a suggestion, not a requirement. If you follow the AA
program, then you will not need a human prop.
Dr.
Bob: “…We
have found it wise policy, too, to hold to no glorification of the
individual.
Obviously, that is sound. Most of us will concede that when it came
to the personal showdown of admitting our failures and deciding to
surrender our will and our lives to Almighty God, as
we understood Him,
we still had some sneaking ideas of personal justification and
excuse. We had to discard them but the ego of the alcoholic dies a
hard death. Many of us because of activity have received praise not
only from our fellow A.A.s but from the world at large. We would be
ungrateful indeed to be boorish when that happens yet it is so easy
for us to become, privately perhaps, just a little vain about it all.
Yet, fitting and wearing halos is not for us. WE'VE all seen the
new member who stays sober for a time, largely through
sponsor-worship.
Then maybe the sponsor gets drunk and you know what usually happens.
Left without a human prop, the new member gets drunk too. He
has been glorifying an individual instead of following the Program."
(Extract, The Fundamentals In Retrospect, by Dr. Bob (AA Grapevine
September 1948) http://da.aagrapevine.org/
The
Big Book: “…Rightly
and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons
with whom to take this intimate and confidential step. Those of us
belonging to a religious denomination which requires confession must,
and of course will want to go to the properly appointed authority,
whose duty it is to receive it. Though we have no religious
connection, we may still do well to talk to someone ordained in an
established religion. We often find such a person quick to see and
understand our problem. Of course, we sometimes encounter people who
do not understand alcoholics. If we cannot or would rather not do
this, we search for our acquaintance with a closed – mouthed,
understanding friend. Perhaps our doctor or psychologist will be the
friend. It may be one of our own family, but we cannot disclose
anything to our wives or parents which will hurt them or make them
unhappy…” ('Alcoholics Anonymous', “Big Book” online, p. 74
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/en_bigbook_chapt6.pdf
The
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions: “…Our
next problem will be to discover the person in whom we are to
confide. Here we ought to take much care, remembering prudence is a
virtue that carries a high rating. Perhaps we shall need to share
facts about ourselves which no others ought to know… …This
person may be one’s sponsor, but not necessarily so… …
Perhaps, though, your relationship to him is such that you would care
to reveal only a part of your story. If this is the situation, by all
means do so… … It may turn out, however, that you’ll choose
someone else for the more difficult and deeper revelations. This
individual may be entirely outside of A.A. – for example, your
clergyman or your doctor. For some of us, a complete stranger may
prove the best bet.” (Extracts, The Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions online pages 60-61):
http://www.aa.org/twelveandtwelve/en_pdfs/en_step5.pdf”
(our
emphases)
Cheers
The
Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
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