The AA (General Service conference approved) booklet: Questions and Answers on Sponsorship
Extract:
“For
the person wanting to be a sponsor
How
does sponsorship help the sponsor?
Sponsorship
strengthens the older member’s sobriety. The act of sharing
sobriety makes it easier for a member to live without alcohol. By
helping others, alcoholics find that they help themselves.
Sponsorship
also offers the satisfaction that comes from assuming responsibility
for someone other than oneself. In a very real sense, it fills the need,
felt by most human beings, to help others over rough spots.
Can any member be a sponsor?
Can any member be a sponsor?
There
is no superior class or caste of sponsors in A.A. Any
member can help the newcomer learn to cope with life without
resorting to alcohol in any form.
In
most instances, A.A. custom does suggest one limitation, already
noted on page 10: If the group is large enough to allow a choice,
sponsor and newcomer be of the same sex. The reasons are the
same from both viewpoints; we A.A. Members, no matter how long we
have been sober, remain thoroughly human, subject to emotions that
might divert us from “our primary purpose.”
When
is a member ready for sponsorship responsibility?
Our
primary purpose is to carry the message of A.A. to the alcoholic who
still suffers. A.A. Members who have actually worked the Steps of
A.A. as a way to attain sobriety, are often in the best position to
share their experience, strength and hope. The most successful
sponsors seem to be men and women who have been in A.A. Long enough
to have a good understanding of the A.A. program outlined in the
Twelve Steps. Many of us think it wise to seek advice from our own
sponsors about when we may be ready to take on the responsibility of
sponsoring another alcoholic.
The
member who has been sober for months or years is usually — but not
always — able to work more effectively with newcomers than the
members whose
experience is limited to only a few weeks or days. Thus, length of
sobriety is a factor, but not the only factor, in successful
sponsorship.
Just as importantly, the sponsor should have capacity for understanding, patience, and the willingness to devote time and effort to new members.”
Just as importantly, the sponsor should have capacity for understanding, patience, and the willingness to devote time and effort to new members.”
(our
emphases)
Comment:
Note the definitions of “responsibility” indicated in the above
link:
“1.
Liable to be required to give account, as of one's actions or of
the discharge of a duty or trust
2.
Involving personal accountability or ability to act without
guidance or superior authority
3.
Being a source or cause
4.
Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and
therefore answerable for one's behaviour
5.
Able to be trusted or depended upon; reliable
6.
Based on or characterized by good judgement or sound thinking”
Clearly
not a task to be undertaken lightly or carelessly and therefore only
after due reflection. The above also implies that an 'assembly line'
(ie. cult) approach to sponsorship simply will not suffice. It is not
unusual for example for cult 'experts' to be sponsoring people in
double figures. This conduct, in our view, represents the complete
antithesis of the advice given, especially so in light of the
definition.
Finally
it's always worth remembering: NO sponsorship is ALWAYS better than
bad sponsorship (especially 'cult sponsorship'). And sponsorship is
NOT one of the essentials for recovery!
Note:
“same sex” sponsorship clearly does not always apply!
Cheers
The Fellas
(Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
(to be
continued)
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